"Wow, I suddenly feel Single"
Let's admit it. There are instances in our lives when we feel Suddenly Single. That sudden rush of loneliness that makes your heart drop to the floor. For a lot of us, these instances come and go and we shrug it off. But then there are amongst us quite a lot of people who take this status to heart and sit to ponder and sook away for hours.
A good friend of mine recently broke up with her boyfriend. While I sat there with her, jokingly scolding her not to open her e-mail to check for a reply to a letter she had sent recently, I realized how few people need constant closure and a sense of protectiveness at all times. It was real soon to be telling her to be single and happy... but she did not wish to be single. She wanted another person in her life. Someone to just be there for her at the end of the day to talk and have a good time, to watch a movie, to hold, to care about. And it wasn't just her who wanted to be with someone, rather stay single. A lot of my friends go about this guy/girl hopping trend, looking for the one.
Is it just me... or is this kind of thinking just not worth one's time? I mean, I've been through those initial weeks of coping with break-ups when rebound relationships seem the right thing to do. They ARE rebound relationships, no matter what you say (I'm not saying they don't work out... look at our very own Britney Spears). But after a couple of break-ups I think one needs to realize a couple of things. One, they've been in a relationship not for the relationship, but for something else. Two, they're not ready for another person to come walking into their lives. Three, they're better off staying single and having a time of their lives. Four, they should stop looking so damn hard for a person to sweep them off their feet & wait for it to happen whenever it is meant to be.
And I ask all those people who think the life of a Singleton sucks (for whatever reason): would you rather spend your evening worrying why he/she never called or going out, laughing, dancing, drinking, chilling, doing whatever with friends? Would you rather sit and change your plans just to suit someone else's or go out on your own and do as you please? Would you date someone for the heck of it or whenever you feel ready to take on a relationship?
If you chose the words in blue... well, what can I say. You need to call the dating hotline ASAP?
If you didn't agree with the words in blue, cheers. The tip's on me. ^5
A good friend of mine recently broke up with her boyfriend. While I sat there with her, jokingly scolding her not to open her e-mail to check for a reply to a letter she had sent recently, I realized how few people need constant closure and a sense of protectiveness at all times. It was real soon to be telling her to be single and happy... but she did not wish to be single. She wanted another person in her life. Someone to just be there for her at the end of the day to talk and have a good time, to watch a movie, to hold, to care about. And it wasn't just her who wanted to be with someone, rather stay single. A lot of my friends go about this guy/girl hopping trend, looking for the one.
Is it just me... or is this kind of thinking just not worth one's time? I mean, I've been through those initial weeks of coping with break-ups when rebound relationships seem the right thing to do. They ARE rebound relationships, no matter what you say (I'm not saying they don't work out... look at our very own Britney Spears). But after a couple of break-ups I think one needs to realize a couple of things. One, they've been in a relationship not for the relationship, but for something else. Two, they're not ready for another person to come walking into their lives. Three, they're better off staying single and having a time of their lives. Four, they should stop looking so damn hard for a person to sweep them off their feet & wait for it to happen whenever it is meant to be.
And I ask all those people who think the life of a Singleton sucks (for whatever reason): would you rather spend your evening worrying why he/she never called or going out, laughing, dancing, drinking, chilling, doing whatever with friends? Would you rather sit and change your plans just to suit someone else's or go out on your own and do as you please? Would you date someone for the heck of it or whenever you feel ready to take on a relationship?
If you chose the words in blue... well, what can I say. You need to call the dating hotline ASAP?
If you didn't agree with the words in blue, cheers. The tip's on me. ^5
btw, in case u are not counting, thats two posts in a row abt romance.
repeat comment i made in the previous post.
Posted by
Random |
2:40 AM
Ick...
Posted by
Mia |
4:47 PM
Single is nice, but I don't know...when are you going to read my blog? maybe that will make more sense...
Posted by
Shannon J. |
2:01 PM
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Posted by
Shannon J. |
2:01 PM
well, by saying single is nice doesn't mean ppl in relationships are the opposite :) This post was directed more at those who make sucha big deal out of getting with someone just to not remain single. And especially those who think staying single doesn't have its own benefits.
I mean, if you're in a relationship, there are chances that you can be as happy as someone who's single.
Posted by
Mia |
2:22 PM